There are so many people that seem to come and go in our lives. Some of them you’re glad to bid farewell to, but you miss a lot of them. You wonder what they are up to. What became of them?
Tim the Enchanter Stays Busy 35 Years After Holy Grail
These days people we used to know often pop up on FaceBook. Others we stay in touch with through email, instant messaging, text messages, phone, and so on. It’s all good for keeping loose bonds, but nothing beats face time. No, not Apple’s FaceTime video calling… the real thing!
Remember what it used to be like before all this new-fangled technology? People used to actually get together with friends. And when they were together they’d talk to each other, not fiddle with their smart phones. Seems like a bygone era almost.
I went to a small, intimate party the other night with some old friends and some new ones. We sat in lawn chairs around a fire wearing fake mustaches and chatting. It was silly, but we had fun. Pretty much all of us were techies or former techies. Here we were, enjoying a very human, laid back, time of just being. It felt bonding to me.
Time together is not in itself face time. You can be with someone 24/7 without actually connecting. You’re doing your thing. They’re doing theirs. Face time that builds a relationship requires engaging conversation, an activity to share; even if it’s just sitting in front of a fire; and more than likely food. “Let us break bread together.” It’s how we absorb each other… again or for the first time.
I’ve always wanted to start a food fight with my kids and just let them go nuts. I bet they’d never forget it. As a teen I once had a party where we had a pie fight. That was fun, and definitely memorable. Another time, some eight or so of us had it out with Reddi Whip (spray whipping cream) in a hotel bathroom. 😉 That was engaging. I’m not quite that crazy any more, but a man can dream. When you’re with people, having fun, talking, and learning, you get a lot more from each other than any virtual contact can provide.
[Picard puts his hand on the Phoenix]
Captain Jean-Luc Picard: It’s a boyhood fantasy… I must have seen this ship hundreds of times in the Smithsonian but I was never able to touch it.
Lieutenant Commander Data: Sir, does tactile contact alter your perception of the Phoenix?
Captain Jean-Luc Picard: Oh, yes! For humans, touch can connect you to an object in a very personal way, make it seem more real.
[Data also puts his hand on The Phoenix]
Lieutenant Commander Data: I am detecting imperfections in the titanium casing… temperature variations in the fuel manifold… it is no more “real” to me now than it was a moment ago.
Cmdr. Deanna Troi: [observing from a catwalk] Would you three like to be alone?